Fear Of, gulp, Commitment!



Your relationship with yourself is a great place to begin.

We are taught many things growing up, how to count, tie our laces, ‘right and wrong’, how to play nicely with others, how to manage our time and money…but are we ever taught how to have and be in working relationships?

How well do you know yourself? Pretty well I am going to guess, you know your favourite foods, drinks, places to visit, shops to purchase from and most of us know our life goals and desires as well. So, when was the last time you made a commitment to yourself? Setting a goal is one thing, but have you truly dedicated yourself to getting what you want or did you just have a thought or write down a random scribble and hope that one day it will come true?

Commitment. A big bold juicy word that holds so much promise, hope, and possibility. It can hold clarity of intent and direction for some, while others and sometimes most of us, have a great big gaping fear and almost conditioned negative response to this idea/area in life. So with the great intention of actually getting EXACTLY what you want and not having lines and fears holding you back, how about you start with the easy stuff – yourself.

What was the last goal, promise, commitment you made to yourself? Was it a thought, did you write it down, have you been over this multiple times in your head? Have you actually taken steps in the direction to get this goal, promise, commitment? Intention is one thing, and yes it’s the best first step to take, but after that, to get to where you want to be, you need to plan and action the next step, and all the steps after that too.

We all like a party, we all like to celebrate and have a good time. So why not apply this wonderful concept to your life? You know that good self-achieving feeling we all love so much, this is a step in the direction to getting more of it…

Write yourself some vows. What do you promise to do, be and uphold to yourself, even when you don’t feel like it? What are you devoted to, for yourself?

Create a commitment ceremony. It can be long or short, simple or involved. It can involve fabulous hair and make up, or your best freshly woken face first thing in the morning. Get real, get scared, bring your vows and slam it down.

Will this matter in 5 years? Yes, this could open pathways to your life you never considered before…and you, yes YOU, are taking the steps towards everything you ever wanted, while enjoying your own company along the way AND smashing that commitment fear…

Its time to kick that fear of commitment and give yourself the best you possible.  


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